IMC: Welcome to In My Chambers Nike. Before meeting your knight and shining armour. What was your dating experience like?
Nike: I dated a wonderful guy in high school who unfortunately died. Then I didn’t date again until I was in University. I didn’t have much time and I found the dates I went on to be super boring.
IMC: You are a woman of Nigerian descent, how important was it for you to marry someone from the same background?
Nike: I would say it was 50% important to me. I really love our Nigerian culture and tradition and I also knew deep down that my father would have wanted me to marry a Nigerian man.
IMC: In my book Single, Ready & Waiting I wrote about the importance of getting parental blessing when making the serious decision to marry someone. For you, it just so happened that you met a Nigerian man. Can you tell us how you met?
Nike: My cousin invited me over to her boyfriends house to braid her hair and within a few minutes this FINE 6’5ft black man walks in. My heart stopped for a second and I remember whispering under my breath “damn he’s fine and he’s wearing native attire” lol!. He walked up to me to introduce himself and then proceeded to ask me my name and where I was from. Once he heard I was Nigerian his eyes lit up!
IMC: Sounds like love at first sight.:) Where did you go for your first date?
Nike: Our first date was at Coffee time near Weston Rd and Finch. We spent over 8 hours just talking and getting to know each other. It felt like 2 hours because we had so many things in common and we just kept talking till morning. It was a simple yet amazing first date.
IMC: How long did he court you before popping the question? And how did he do it?
Nike: We courted for 2 years before he asked me to marry him. He proposed at my sisters house in Vaughan. He reenacted the ring scene from “Step Mom” by tying a long string to my ring finger and sliding the ring down as he said some fancy things (I don’t remember cause I was in shock). Once the ring hit my figure he asked me to marry him and of course I said YES!
IMC: Awe….in three words or less how would you describe your wedding day?
Nike: Perfect, simple and incredible
IMC: As Christians, how do you include God in your marriage?
Nike: Daily morning prayers together, attend church and we have devotionals together at 5:30 am before the kids wake up.
IMC: What was the biggest adjustment you had to make after saying “I do”?
Nike: We never lived together before getting married so I would say living together was a big adjustment for the both of us and cooking..LOL.
IMC: What advice do you have to share with Christian single women?
Nike: Lay your request before God and wait in expectation. Psalms 5:3
I wrote what I wanted in a husband and put that in my Bible and waited for God to do it! He answers….. NEVER settle for what is not God ordained. He promised you THE BEST so be patient and wait…. He’s got it all under control.
IMC: And there you have it folks…God’s GOT IT ALL UNDER CONTROL!!!
Remain faithful as you wait for there is nothing too hard for the Lord to do.
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