Where Can I Go To Meet Someone?

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Are you a new Christian wondering “where can I go to meet someone”?

Don’t worry you are not the first nor the last to ask this question.  As a Christian counselor I’ve been asked this question plenty of times and my answer is always the same:  focus on what you love to do i.e exercising, writing, reading, studying the Bible, learning a new instrument etc. oppose to scoping out places where you can go just to meet someone new. Totally different mindset.

When I was single and not yet saved, my friends and I knew exactly where we could go to meet someone of the opposite sex: THE CLUB and if we wore the right outfit that night,  we’d all leave with one or two numbers to follow up with…lol

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With that being said I can see why new Christian women, who used to attend the clubs, may get frustrated in their single Christian walk. They might have gone from being approached regularly by men to not being approached at all.

Could this be the reason why some women in church may feel the need to step up their game by doing the following:

1. Wearing outfits that get the attention of their fellow brothers in Christ? In hopes of  getting the same reaction/results they got when they went to the club?

Sisters, if you want to attract a man that walks in the spirit more than his flesh this is definitely not the way to go about doing it.

2. Throwing themselves at a man (like we see in this Video). Again, not the way to go.

To answer the question “where can I go to meet someone” I repeat, don’t focus on where you have to go to meet someone; this can lead to frustration. Instead, think about what you enjoy doing and find others who enjoy doing the same.  A great place to start would be Meetup.com.  And don’t forget to attend your single’s ministry if you have one. The teachings there can also be a great support in your single season.

Feel free to share this blog with others, you never who you might be helping in their  single season.

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