What Should A Single Woman Focus on? – A Biblical Perspective
If you ever wondered what a single women’s focus should be while waiting, 1 Corinthians 7:34 shares some insight on the topic.
It reads: “And the unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, that she should be holy both in body and in spirit.”
In other words, her focus should be to please God with her whole being. That is… her mind, body and soul.
Why does Paul take the time to point this out? I’d say to give the single ladies the heads up on how her focus may change after marriage.
You see, within that same scripture it talks about how the married women’s focus is about caring for the things of the world and how she may please her husband.
Just the other day, I had a conversation with another married friend of mine about how our devotion time had changed since getting married. Though we still care for the things of the Lord, we both felt that after attending to the needs of our home and family it didn’t leave much time for anything else.
Though a single woman can have a busy life too, when she comes home there is usually no one other than herself to take care of; unless of course she is a mother or taking care of a sick loved one. But if not, she has the time in her home to read/study/pray more.
When a single woman understands that her alone time is actually PRECIOUS TIME, she’ll spend it getting to know herself and the Lord better. Which will in turn make her into more than just a wife, but a Godly one. There is a difference! Will cover that in another blog…
When I think back, it was those date-less nights that I developed a closer relationship with God.
Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I fed my spirit with the Word, prayed for His continued strength to wait for what He promised and listened quietly for His instructions regarding my life and purpose.
It is those date-less nights that God is ALSO using to MAKE YOU, if you allow it, into the woman He wants you to be to fulfill your life’s purpose as a single and later as a wife!
To care for the things of the Lord the way 1 Corinthians 7:34 describes, getting to a place of contentment with your singleness is key.
Why? because a heart that is discontented about being single can be indirectly saying “Why should I care for the things of the Lord when my desire for a mate has not been met?.”
Have you ever waited for something that you later received? Would you say that the timing in which you received it was the right time? So it will be with the mate God is preparing for you. He knows what is best for you; when it is best for you.
Well, it’s that time again. …. I’ve got tomorrow’s dinner to prepare for, a baby to change and a husband to keep happy.
But, before I go I leave you with a few questions to ponder upon.
Do you cherish the time you now have with the Lord?
What does caring for the things of the Lord look like to you?..attending church…paying your tithes..??
How do you think staying pure is caring for the Lord?
Are you emotionally and spiritually ready to give of yourself and time to caring for the needs of a husband and family?
Speaker, “Whole Without Holes”™ Counselor & Author of the book Single, Ready & Waiting:Your Guide to Courtship