Have you ever wondered what your focus should be while waiting?
A biblical perspective can be found in 1 Corinthians 7:34-35.
It reads: “An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But, a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.”
The other day, I had a conversation with a married friend about how our devotion time had changed since getting married and having children. Though we care for the things of the Lord, we felt there was little time for anything else.
Though a single woman can have a busy life too, when she comes home there is usually on one other than herself to take care of; unless she is a mother or taking care of a sick loved one. But if not, she has the time in her home to read/study/pray more. (If you’re looking for the benefits of being single that’s one right there. )
Time is precious and when it’s used in one’s single season to get to know them self and God better, it can be the greatest time of their life.
Thinking Back
When I think back to the time when I was single, it was those lonely nights that I developed an even closer relationship with God. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I fed my spirit with the Word, prayed for His continued strength to wait for what He promised and quietly listened for His instructions regarding love, life and my purpose.
Single ladies reading, it’s your lonely nights that God also uses to MAKE YOU, if you allow it, into the woman He needs you to be, to fulfill your purpose as a single and later as a wife!
To care for the things of the Lord the way 1 Corinthians 7:34 describes, contentment is key. For a heart that is discontented about being single can easily be distracted and be lead away from the things that please God.
Final words of Encouragement
It’s all about protecting your HEART.
While you care for the things of the Lord, He wants you to TRUST HIM with the cares of your heart, like finding a mate.
He is your GOOD, GOOD Father.
Here are a few questions to ponder upon.
- Do you cherish the time you now have with the Lord?
- What does caring for the things of the Lord look like to you?..attending church…paying your tithes..??
- How do you think staying pure is caring for the Lord?
- Are you emotionally and spiritually ready to give of yourself and time to caring for the needs of a husband and family?
Tanika Chambers
Speaker, Mentor & Author of the book Single, Ready & Waiting:Your Guide to Courtship