Welcome to another In My Chambers Blog Interview.
I hope you’re enjoying the SRW blog just as much as I enjoy interviewing my guests and sharing them with you.
Well, without further due let’s meet the lovely Cassandra Cassamajor.
IMC: Cassandra before meeting Mr. Right did you get involved with Mr. Wrong?
Cassandra: I sure did! I met a whole bunch of Mr. Wrongs. Before I met Mr. Right, I was entertaining a relationship with someone who wasn’t saved. He was a great guy and he had all but the most important of the qualities I was looking for in a man – he wasn’t a Christian. He said he believed in God but he didn’t go to church, he didn’t believe in reading his bible, and most of all, no part of his day was devoted to spending time with the Lord. But I led myself to believe that because he said he believed in God, thing would work out between us and we were equally yoked. Boy was I dead wrong. And it didn’t take me long to see that he wasn’t right for me but I really loved him, and he loved me too, so I stayed with him. Things went south quickly when he started inquiring about taking my virginity. And that’s where things ended. He realized that I was actually serious about remaining a virgin. So he decided to be with someone who he could be sexually intimate with.
IMC: Many singles are meeting their mate in various ways..through the internet, at church. How did you meet your mate?
Cassandra: I met Jeff at my local church in Toronto. He lived in Montreal but he was in Toronto for the weekend visiting his family who attended my local church. His cousin introduced us to each other after Sunday morning service. The following day, I spoke with him for 2 hours. After that long conversation, I knew there was something special about him, so I didn’t play hard to get.
IMC: How did he win your heart over?
Cassandra: He won my heart over with his humility and sincere devotion to the Lord. More precisely, he won my heart over when HE told ME that he didn’t want us having sex until marriage! What?! In the past, I was always the one who had to bring up the sex talk and explain my vow to remain pure until marriage. This time around, he brought it up and he lived up to it.
IMC: How did he pop the question?
Cassandra: I travelled to Montreal for the weekend of his birthday. I planned out the entire weekend, leaving no room to rest or to be tempted lol. One of the activities that I planned was going to a shooting range. He kept on asking me about the details of the shooting range and I wondered why but I didn’t investigate further. It turns out he got into contact with the manager at the shooting range, planned the proposal with him and even had a professional photographer capture the moment for us. After shooting and missing a few times, I hit the target and Jeff and our instructor were so excited and asked me if I wanted to see where I hit on the target. Still clueless, I said sure. I was handed the target and on the it was written “Will you marry me?” I turned to look over at Jeff and there he was on one knee saying a bunch of sweet things I cannot remember. And I said YES!
IMC: Since getting married what would you say is the biggest adjustment you had to make?
Cassandra: The biggest adjustment I had to make was to learn how to live away from my family, friends and church family. Jeff and I were in a long distance relationship for our entire relationship. We knew that at some point someone would have to relocate and we eventually agreed that it would be me. Leaving Toronto, where I was born and raised and where I lived for 26 years was tough. But I am remaining in constant communication with my family, friends and church in Toronto. I visit and they visit too. Looks like I ended my long distance relationship with Jeff to begin many long distance relationships with my loved ones in Toronto. I’d say that I’ve mastered long distance relationships lol.
IMC: Being away from family, church and your close friends what do you do to stay grounded?
Cassandra: In order to stay grounded, I personally need to stay busy. For as long as I could remember, I’ve always lived a hectic life. I juggled working, being in ministry, volunteering, going to school, and having to maintain a healthy long distance relationship. I finally have a chance to rest but resting too much has been stressing me out. So I try to fill my days with projects. Other than applying for work, making sure the house is in order, that there is food on the table and that my husband is taken care of :), I have been devoting way more time to seeking the Lord, studying His Word, writing, reading, doing research, trying new recipes, sewing, organizing, reorganizing and decorating our home and keeping in touch with my family and friends in Toronto.
IMC: What advice do you have for young women who may be feeling depressed about their single status especially when they see their friends dating and getting married?
Cassandra: I truly believe that God has a unique plan for us all and He is always on time. And that goes for all aspects of our lives. While you may feel depressed about your single status, others may be feeling depressed about their dating and marriage statuses. Embrace your season of singleness and don’t you dare settle for a man who is not equally yoked. Let the desires of your heart be known to God, trust in His timing, be patient, work on bettering yourself and have fun while you wait on the Lord. Psalms 37:5 says “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.”. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” Proverbs 3:5-6.
IMC: Lastly, You are currently looking for a job in Montreal. You never know who could be reading this interview:) What kind of job are you looking for and how could someone get in contact with you for a possible interview or job lead?
Cassandra: Awww thank you Tanika! Though my education and experience is mostly in Real Estate Law, Criminal Law and Immigration law, I am opened to working in any legal department. I can be contacted on LinkedIn: Cassandra Destra or by email: email@example.com
IMC: Cassandra, thank you for sharing your love story with me and my readers. I pray God’s continued blessings upon you and your marriage.
Well friends, like I always say “God Has A Master Plan With Your Name On It!”
Stay tuned for another In My Chambers blog interview. ©
Tanika Chambers, Author of the book Single, Ready & Waiting: Your Guide to Courtship