So I finally watched the Steve Harvey movie “Think Like A Man” and thought, this is definitely a movie targeted mostly to a “one day I might fully surrender my life to Christ and do things His way” type of crowd. (If you fit into that category, I pray that you will one day choose Christ.) But even so, I came across a few lines that I felt Christian singles could also learn from.
Line # 1
“You haven’t required him to pop the question.” Steve Harvey
This line say’s a lot, even to Christian singles. Before we can be honest with anyone else, we have to first be honest with ourselves. Ladies, have you ever compromised on your standards and/or beliefs in hopes of holding on to a guy? Well, this is how actress Meagan Good in the film became the 90 Day Rule Girl; she got tired of giving away “the cookie” and changed her game plan. Instead of having sex on the first or second date she waited 90 days.
So how did the 90 Day Rule work out for her in the film? In her favour that’s for sure. Mr. Player, who she was getting to know, ends up falling deeply in love with her. The longer she had him wait the more he got to know her and vice versa. Exactly the way it should be. Waiting helps to develop a purposeful relationship that leads to Courtship and eventually a strong marriage.
Now before you start to consider a 90 Day Rule, let’s keep the following in mind: the rules for Christians are different. This is why I wrote the book Single Ready and Waiting: Your Guide to Courtship, A New Perspective. In it, I prove that it is very possible for a man and woman who are attracted to each other to NOT have sex until their wedding night. Choosing to wait can help a couple to develop a strong foundation in marriage from the start. One that Meagan Good and now husband Devon Franklin are most likely experiencing after choosing to wait until marriage to have sex.
“Men respect women who have standards, over those who don’t. So if you don’t have any, get some.”
Here we have another line that speaks volumns and really should go without saying for the saved Christian. But, if the truth be told far too many Christian women are trading their holy standards in for a season of sin and then wonder why the guy marries the woman he couldn’t sleep with. Ladies, let this not be you.
Also keep the following in mind. A woman of standard doesn’t only mean waiting until marriage to have sex, it is also loving you, knowing your value, worth and not staying with a man who abuses you, a man who constantly cheats on you, to name a few.
Every woman especially God fearing women need to set standards for themselves and be a doer of them and not only talk about them.
“You don’t need a man, you are a man.”
Oh man, this line was good and needed to be highlighted in this blog. I truly hope it helps someone in a very positive way. You see, when a women acts like a man, she doesn’t leave very much room for a man to be a man in her life.
While there is nothing wrong with a woman who is independent, confident and career driven, she must also make sure that these great qualities do not pose a problem in an actual relationship. Because at the end of the day, a man doesn’t want you to be a man. Embrace your femininity.