Welcome to In My Chambers Solomon. It seems like yesterday that we met at an event my girlfriend and I had put on for Christian singles and now you’re a married man. So very happy that you found the one your heart longed for. Tell me Solomon prior to marriage how was “singleness” different for you as a Christian vs non-Christian.
Solomon: A bit about me to better answer this good question! I am a PK(Pastors Kid). In my younger days, I was that PK that broke all the rules and still went to church on Sundays. I enjoyed the things of the world like hard core clubbing about 5 days a week and drinking. Singleness then for me was like being sick, I did not like it at all…it was obvious I needed a Savior. I would later on in life respond to God’s invitation to be made whole! After Jesus had gotten a hold of me, my view of singleness was different. I began to see singleness as a time of Preparation, Pruning, and a Path bringing me closer to Jesus. Singlehood as a Christian was a joyous season to devote myself to Christ and His cause.
The Bible says He that findeth a wife….when did you start the search for a wife ?
Solomon: I had the desire for a wife, but I was not out searching. I had relational setbacks I needed healing from, which kept me from actively searching. I remember once saying I wanted a wife that really loved Jesus; I was at peace knowing God was preparing her for me and I too needed to be prepared for her. It’s the best feeling in the world that I met my wife when I was searching for more of God. It’s so true when we seek God’s kingdom first, everything is added to us as mentioned in scriptures.
Then you met her. How did you know that she was the one you wanted to marry?
Solomon: Great question! I don’t take the credit for connecting with her; it was all the Lords doing…He is the perfect match maker. There is a quote I like, “The journey toward greater things is marked with setbacks and real suffering, but God has never wasted an ounce of your faith’’. When I first originally met my wife, I thought she was very beautiful and cool, but thought nothing more after we had met. I would eventually connect with her again during a tough season in my life. The Lord had redirected me to my church now called The New Hope Centre. I eventually came to know my wife at church after observing her for about 6 months. We had an interesting friendship; we would only give each other handshakes every time we met and had very short chats. I watched how she pursued the Lord and also observed how she was with others. The more I observed her, the more I fell for her. There was this fear of rejection I had which kept me from pursuing her sooner; maybe it was because I thought of myself then as a shepherd boy rather than a Boaz! I think the key moment for me was after we had a 6 hour fellowship with friends; we supernaturally began to date after that fellowship, I would eventually ask my pastors for the blessing to pursue her with marriage being my goal.
Was there ever a time in your Courtship that you didn’t see eye to eye? How did you get over this hurdle.
Solomon: Yes, there were many times we didn’t see eye to eye. We know the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy….we had intense challenges but we kept Jesus at the center of our relationship which kept us going. We had amazing marriage counseling which helped a lot, not to mention pastors and friends that always kept us in their prayer. What kept us over the hurdle was our eyes fixed on Jesus in rough times.
How did you pop the question?
Solomon: Myself and friends had arranged an interview, I told my wife we had to share our testimonies for church use. My plan had been to propose at the end of the interview, you can see the proposal video below. Thank God the plan all worked out.
Now you are a husband. How has married life changed you?
Solomon: I recently told a friend that marriage was like playoff basketball…you have fun and give it your all. Every day in marriage is like a game 7 game….You allow the Holy Spirit to lead your team. Marriage has changed my life in ways I can’t explain, I see Jesus so much more clearly now. Marriage has helped me to be a lot more responsible and it has helped me grow a lot in areas that I know I needed growth in
What advice do you have for single Christian women and men who are waiting to find that special one?
Solomon: Based on my experiences so far, I would encourage Christian singles to wait on God’s perfect timing. In my story and observations, Jesus is the perfect match maker and He has a better taste than we do. When you are single and can’t find a great partner, it’s easy to think you’re being punished or God has forgotten about you. That is a lie from the pit of hell. Singlehood isn’t a death sentence, it’s a time God prepares and develops you. God makes all things beautiful in His perfect time. While you are waiting, God is working. Singlehood is a gift from God that is to be enjoyed, God gives people the gift of singleness, and their gift back to Him is how they enjoy it growing deeper in God.
Thank you Solomon for sharing your story and wisdom with my readers. Marriage to the right person is awesome. God’s richest blessings to you and your wife.
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For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry. Habakkuk 2:3